I want to be RARE. I want to press on toward the goal…I want to run and not grow weary…
However, what happens? I forget the goal & grow weary. Instead of rare, I become WELL-DONE: weary, encouragement-less, lack motivation, lack joy, decision-less, off-key, negative and envious. How do I get so far off from where I am to where I know I should be?
Do not grow weary in doing good?!? I read those words and thought, how do you (I) do that? How do you not get tired, fatigued and frustrated? Is it possible with all that life throws at us?
Well, those words can be found in Galatians 6:9. You see, “rather than Paul telling us not to feel tired, Paul was encouraging us to persist in doing what was good and not allow our weariness with poor results to change our course. It is easy to grow weary when we are not seeing results or when others question whether the results are worth the efforts. At other times, discouragement comes from seeing the gap between where I know I should be and the reality of where I am.” (RARE Leadership) Can you relate? I sure can!!!
How do we bridge that gap? How do we stay the course? It can be found in the acronym R.A.R.E
R – remain relational. We are not meant to journey alone or be isolated. We are meant for community.
A – act like yourself. In order to do this, you must know who you are – not who people think you are or want you to be but you (the real you).
R – return to joy. We can not be joyful all the time; however, the key is how fast we are reminded of “our happy place.” Joy = strength.
E – endure hardships well. In life, hardships of varying degrees is certain. How we handle those hardships matter more than we may realize for ourselves & others.
I want (scratch that)…I WILL: I will press onward – I will stay the course – I will run & not grow weary – I will choose to be RARE!
It has been just under a week since our 45+ hour burpee trek. It was hard. It was rewarding. It was worth it. Now that I have had time to reflect and appreciate what was accomplished; I stand amazed at the effort, encouragement and support of so many that helped bless and strengthen our community. Truly thankful!
Five things I learned from Burpee like BA:
1. One person may have the idea or dream but it takes a team of people with unique-and-equally important giftings to make it happen. No one can do it alone. We were never created to do that! (Ecc. 4:9-12)
2. There are many who say it is impossible. There are a few who say you can. Listen to the few! (Philip. 4:13)
3. There will be moments when you want to quit. Don’t! (Heb. 12:11)
4. Set a goal. Go for it. However, do not forget about the life that surrounds you every moment of every day while you pursue that goal. If you achieve your goal but your life falters, what was the point anyway? Know what truly matters! (Mark 8:36)
5. Have a steady mind & thankful heart. Give it all you got & never-ever underestimate the power of prayer. You can do it! (Is. 26:3)
Until our next BA adventure…keep your eyes clear and your heart full.
A few months back, I heard a sermon about kindness. Let me share two points that made an impact on me: (1) kindness leads to repentance and (2) being an ambassador of kindness (A.O.K.)
Let’s briefly discuss both of them.
(1) Kindness leads to repentance. This concept is found in Romans 2:4, “…that God’s kindness is meant to lead you to repentance.” I wonder how many people actually know this or better yet, believe it? I think many people feel like this instead: they screw up (whatever that means for them) – God gets mad at them – they ask for forgiveness and then hit the repeat button for years. To me, that is a cyclic issue of not having the right perception of a kind, loving Father. Instead of growing closer to God and more mature in the understanding of who He is and who you are – you actually become stagnate, never satisfied with how you relate to God leading to frustration instead of repentance. And what is repentance – it is a turning away; a change/renewal in mindset. God’s kindness renews, refreshes and releases us into the very call that God has on our lives. How much more then should we be kind to one another?
One other thought about this – how do our actions influence our children? Do they lead to frustration or repentance? Is our kindness evident? Click here to learn why it matters.
(2) Being an A.O.K. An ambassador is defined as: a person who acts as a representative or promoter of a specified activity. 2 Cor. 5:20 reads, “Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, God making his appeal through us…” Catch that – we are Christ’s ambassador thus God makes His appeal through us to people around us. Our attitude, language, actions, etc… matter greatly! We are to be promoters of kindness and that kindness that works in and through us will be God himself making an appeal for repentance. How crazy is that? Our kindness or lack thereof can influence someone toward or away from God? So next time you think you can not be an A.O.K., remember the words of Dalai Lama, “Be kind whenever possible; it is always possible!”
Four letters but a big impact! The words ‘yet-i’ immediately makes me think of ‘Yeti.’ Did you know that Yeti is another name or abominable snowman? How did I not but that makes me smile and like the brand that much more. I found this on the YETI website - “We’re so glad that we weren’t the only ones looking for a YETI. Today it is the cooler of choice for outdoor enthusiasts, pros, tailgaters, and backyard barbecue kings. And that still gets us fired up. Ultimately, life is about having a good time doing what you love. And for us, that’s being outdoors hunting whitetail, catching a tarpon on the fly, and spending time with our families and buddies. We’re wild at heart.” Ok, that is not what this blog is about – well, sort of.
Recently, I heard a sermon (really, more of a conversation) about “Here comes Joy.” In the conversation, Jim shares his story. It is a story of how joy and grief can coincide. It is a story of how trust can lead to joy even in the midst of life-changing circumstances that are not fully understood. In the conversation, Jim references Habakkuk 3:17-18, “Though the fig tree should not blossom, nor fruit be on the vines, the produce of the olive fail and the fields yield no food, the flock be cut off from the fold and there be no herd in the stalls, YET I will rejoice in the Lord; I will take joy in the God of my salvation.”
Let’s make it more personal. ‘Though my sister is diagnosed with cancer, YET I will take joy.’ ‘Though I do not get that promotion and it seems I go unnoticed, YET I will rejoice in the Lord.’ ‘Though I had a miscarriage, YET I will take joy in the God of my salvation.’ ’Though a family member gossiped about me, YET I will rejoice.’ What is your ‘though ____’ and will you have the courage to add four letters to your story. Those 4 letters: Y – E – T – I are a choice we get to make every day. Is it always easy – no. Is it always necessary – yes. And for Jim & countless others, making that not easy, necessary choice has made an everlasting impact.
…gets me fired up.
…allows me to have a good time & do what I love.
…gives me time to spend with family and friends.
…gets me outside to be wild at heart.
As I was writing this, I stopped to treat a patient. Her shirt read,“Messy. Blessed. Life.” Yep; that my friends is what YET-I is all about.
What is our daily bread? Is it the daily devotional I saw on a table in the church I grew up in? Is it a spiritual metaphor? Is it a reference to ‘the Lord’s prayer?’ The answer is yes, yes and yes. The bigger question is: why does it matter?
The ones who read my blog post – ‘Cancer Sucks – You don’t‘ – know a little about my family’s run-in with cancer. Because of that blog post, it has given people courage to share their story. Thank you for that – it is in our stories that we can have hope and confidence. Also, some have asked for an update. Here ya go: Because of other findings, my sister did not have a double mastectomy as planned. After a long month of tests, scans and the fear of the unknown, she has been diagnosed with Stage 4 breast cancer. Aggressive chemo was scheduled but has since been canceled due the wide-spread nature of the cancer. She is doing palliative care. I write those words with an aching heart knowing that without a miracle my sister’s time on this earth is limited. That being said, although my sister may be terminal, she is fully alive. I have seen a joy and hope and peace arise in my sister that is nothing short of a miracle itself. It has been placed deep within her by Christ himself. Does she and will she have rough days? Of course but her confidence is not in what is seen but unseen – the daily bread!
Recently, Jen and I attended a worship night at Crossroads Church . The theme of the night was focused around the ‘Lord’s Prayer.’ The theme song was Breakthrough . As we sang and prayed – we came to the part that read, “… give us this day our daily bread…” (Matthew 6:11). I cannot say I heard it audibly but it was clear within my mind and heart; these words – “I promised you daily bread. It is all you need.” Those words have saturated and sustained my soul for the past few weeks.
You see, since finding out the diagnosis about my sister, I was anxious for what the future held for our family. I was projecting 2, 3, or even 6 months into the future. At the worship night I referenced above, God tenderly spoke to me the truth that his promise is for daily provision – not a projection into the future. My anxiety comes when I start worrying about future events that may or may not happen. As I re-focused on ‘the daily bread’ of my life, I was able to ‘replace the what if’s‘ that cause not only anxiety but frustration. A few scriptures that came to mind: (1) Matt. 6:34, “Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself.” (2) Lam. 3:22-23, “The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases, his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning…” (3) Ex. 16:4, “…the people are to go out each day and gather enough for that day…” (4) John 6:35, “…Jesus declared, “I am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never go hungry…”
Of course we want more than the daily bread – it is our human nature to do so b/c we think we will not have enough or be enough. But what happened when the Israelites gathered more than they needed? It went bad – it spoiled and rotted! What happens to our mind, emotions and eventually our bodies if we continually have anxiety, worry and frustrations about future events (that may or may not happen)? Yep, you guessed it; they spoil – go bad, if you will, and affect our health and the health of our families.
Every day has the potential to be average or awesome. Either way, can we learn to pray…give us this day our daily bread and know (really know)…enough for the day is really enough? In his sermon, ‘Deepest Prayer,‘ J. Piper puts it this way, “The Lord’s Prayer is very true to life in this sense. Life is a combination of spectacular things and simple things. In almost everyone’s life there are breathtaking things and boring things. Fantastic things and familiar things. Extraordinary things and ordinary things. Awesome things and average things. Exotic things and everyday things. That’s the way life is.”
And as I commonly like to do, I have made an acronym for DAILY.
1. D - Delight. But first you have to have the desire. “Delight yourself in the Lord…”(Ps. 37:4)
2. A – Awareness. “Be on guard…” (1 Peter 5:8, 1 Cor. 16:13)
3. I – Intimacy. This takes intentionality and consistency. ”Abide in me and I in you…” (John 15:4-5)
4. L - Listen. Two ears, one mouth. “Be quick to listen…” (James 1:19)
5. Y – Yes. This requires learning to say no. “All His promises are Yes…” (2 Cor. 1:20, Matt. 5:37)
From Monday Dec. 10 through Friday Dec. 21, Trinity will be ‘Gladhatters.’ We invite you to join us! What is a Gladhatter? It is someone who will do four things: (1) Rejoice (2) Pray (3) Give (4) Wear
Why are we doing this? Three reasons: (1) Support a local ministry (2) Encourage a specific family (3) Wearing a winter hat is fun!
A. Trinity Staff will wear winter hats every day for 2 weeks. During these 2 weeks, we will purpose to rejoice, pray & give!
B. Patients are encouraged to wear and give winter hats.
C. If a patient wears a winter hat to be adjusted, Dr. Bo will donate $1.00 to the Green Family.
D. If a patient gives a winter hat, Dr. Bo will donate $5.00 to the Green Family.
E. All winter hats given will be donated to the Northern Lighthouse prison ministry.
Who is the Green family? You can read their story here if you choose. The short version is this. Angie Green has been a patient of Trinity for over 10 years. Recently (Sept. 2018), Angie found out she was pregnant with their 6th child. Shortly after, she found out she had bladder cancer. The last 2-3 months have been a roller coaster for them. Angie and her family continue to pray, rejoice and give thanks even in the midst of a difficult journey. We want to come alongside the Green family and support them with not only our prayers but our resources. Will you join us by being a ‘Gladhatter?’ You do not have to be a Trinity patient to give a hat. Stop by our office – say hello – give a hat – be a ‘Gladhatter’ too!
Besides supporting the Green family, we also want to support a local ministry that prays, gives and rejoices with those would are coming out of prison. Let’s help cover their heads and hearts with love! You can learn more about the Northern Lighthouse here.
Jennifer and I were planning on teaching a children’s class but the weather had different plans. However, the lesson for that day would have been: Strong Life. The object lesson was to stack wooden blocks with each block representing an attribute that would make up a strong life. I was looking forward to what the kids would come up with. Nonetheless, as I sat there watching it snow, I had to wonder to myself; what do I think makes up a strong life? How many blocks would I need to stack? One…two…seven???
Here is what I came up with for myself. Guess I only need 4 blocks!
Block 1: Identity. This is the foundational block. Two questions should be asked. Click here to view them.
Block 2.Values. What I deem important? All I have to do is look at where I spend my time and that will, more often than not, tell me what I value.
Block 3: Attitude. I have a choice on how I respond to my day – this includes circumstances and people.
Block 4. Service. Do I make it all about me or do I consider others more important than myself?
Three more points about stacking blocks: (1) Do I always stack those four blocks in that order? No way! But as I have said in the past, perfection is not the key. My blocks tumble and I have to be reminded of what & how to stack. (2) Each of those blocks could have multiple sub-blocks, if you will, but those four – to me – would make a Strong Life when consistently & intentionally put in that order. (3) Each person stacks the blocks differently. Just b/c they do not do it like me does not make it wrong. I need to remember that.
And b/c you know how I like acronyms.
S – stamina. To keep stacking when it doesn’t seem to matter or when the blocks just do not seem to hold up. In the famous words of Dory, “Just keep stacking…”
T – temperament. To let our internal reality affect the external reality and not the other way around.
R - realistic. To know that you cannot, should not or never was meant to do life alone.
O - optimistic. To see the glass not half full or empty but to rather – see the glass and the water. If it is half-full – drink it. If it is half-empty – fill it.
N – no. To learn that it is not about managing time but rather it is about managing ourselves and the ability to say no to the less important.
When you look in the mirror, what are the words that come to mind? Are they positive or negative? Are they truth or lies that have been spoken to you? Why am I asking? Simple – it matters not only for your own self but for those you interact with. How you view yourself can (and often does) dictate many aspects of your life: mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.
Let’s explore what I have termed the “Mirror Principle.” I tired to make it simple and to the point but also thought provoking. Watch the videos in order to get the most out of it. Take time to think about how each part applies to your life and if any changes are needed.
My prayer is that: “…all may go well with you and that you may be in good health, as it goes well with your soul.” (3 john 2)
Mirror Principle: Introduction(Remembrance…)
Mirror Principle: Part 1(I am…)
Mirror Principle: Part 2(You are not a failure…)
Mirror Principle: Part 3(As the habitat goes…)
Mirror Principle: Part 4 (It takes a heart change…)
Note: Please take a moment to visit Trinity’s Facebook for other videos or current happenings in the office.
Colds and the flu escalate dramatically during the winter months; a period spanning from about Thanksgiving to almost Easter – the protracted Holiday Season. Some of the general flu symptoms include fever, chills, nasal symptoms, lack of appetite, increased sleep, malaise, fatigue, and generalized pain. Why do so many people feel these symptoms? Why do people feel less motivated, have less energy and increased achy-ness during the Winter months? We can call this conglomeration of symptoms the “Winter-Time Blues” and they come from different sources.
First is the decreased activity of many people. During the Spring, Summer and Fall, people want to be outside in the fresh air; playing, laughing and running around. These activities are good for cardiovascular fitness, immunological function and emotional well-being. Also, the increased amount of sunshine is good for Vitamin D production and overall mood enhancement. During the Winter months, people tend to not want to go outside because of the frigid air. They tend to want to bundle up with a blanket, drink a cup of hot cocoa and watch a movie. This inactivity actually leads to de-conditioning which can lead to headaches, low back pain and even sickness. It is a well-known fact that a sedentary lifestyle can cause: (1) decreased muscle tone (2) decreased cardiovascular function (3) disease processes such as obesity and Type-II diabetes. Ever wonder why so many people are sore in the Spring or injure themselves in the Spring; it could be that “hibernating” in the Winter has set them up for a future problem.
Second is the stress of the holiday season. Ever person handles stress differently and what may stress out one person may not bother another. There are two types of stress: (1) Eustress- which is good stress and (2) Distress – which is bad stress. Now, the holiday season should be a type of “eustress” because families are getting together, people take time off work, etc…but for many, the added stress of the holidays is “distress.” This added stress dramatically changes our body’s ability to fight off infections. The problem is that prolonged distress can lead to many health concerns including chronic fatigue, pain and countless other diseases. Hans Seyle, MD famously stated, “It is not stress that kills us; it is our reaction to it.”
Third, and I think most important, is the increase in our dietary intake of omega-6 fatty acids (decrease in Omega-3 fatty acids) and sugar. From Halloween candy to Santa’s cookies & milk to chocolate Easter bunnies everyone should be aware of the potential harmful effects of an excessive dietary intake of sugar. These include but are not limited to: (1) hyperglycemia (2) diabetes (Type II predominately) (3) “sugar highs & lows” (4) increased production of inflammatory chemicals (i.e cytokines, prostaglandins and interleukins). Omega-6 foods include all grains (breads, pasta, cereal, packaged foods). Omega-3 foods include green vegetables, fish and flax seed. The omega-6 to Omega-3 ratio should be 1:1, no more than 4:1, but this ratio is doubled, tripled or even quadrupled during the holiday season. Why is this important? Because an excessive intake of omega-6 leads to an increase production of inflammatory chemicals which can lead to increased amounts of pain. Conversely, Omega-3 foods are anti-inflammatory in nature.
During this “protracted” holiday season, give yourself a fighting chance. (1) Stay active as much as possible (2) Let the hussle and bussle of the season be “eustress” not “distress” – enjoy family and friends (3) Give yourself a nutritional adjustment by eating minimal amounts of omega-6- and sugar-rich foods, and instead continue to drink water & eat lots of fruits and vegetables.
And here is helpful anti-inflammatory tea. We call it OOOSSS Juice.
OOOSS JUICE (anti-inflammatory tea)
Boil 1/2 gallon of water. Turn off and keep off.
Add 2-4 organic green tea bags.
Add ½ lb of ginger (sliced, not peeled).
Add 1-2 tablespoons of raw, local honey.
Steep for 2-3 hours. Strain out tea bags and ginger, place juice in jar and cool in fridge.
Serve hot or cold. Both are great!
While reading the other day, I ran across the word, Habitudes. The word is a marriage of two powerful forces in our daily lives: habits and attitudes. Depending on how we utilize these forces, our health can be affected positively or negatively. To learn more about Habitudes, click here.
Let’s look at habits first. I often get asked: “Doc, why am I having this pain? I have not done anything.” My response, “Maybe that is the problem.” I say it jokingly because I am fully aware that the person sitting in front of me wants to know why they are in pain and how to avoid it again. As I explain my answer in further detail; they start to become aware of their own habits that would be causing or preventing their pain. Truth is this; our habits (even when not aware of them) drive our health or lack thereof. Knowing that habits affect patient’s health, one of my jobs as a chiropractor is to make them habit-aware. What is habit-aware? It is taking an inventory of your daily life choices and how your habits (good or bad) affect your health. As Will Durant noted, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” Let’s be excellent in our health!
A note of interest – if you (or I) are unhealthy in one habit-aware category then it will eventually affect the other area. They cannot and should not be treated as isolated events but rather parts to a whole; that whole being YOU! If you would like more in-depth information about habit-awareness, click here.
I have learned (ok, I am still learning) that my attitude not only affects me but those around me. It influences family, business, friends and patients. My attitude – the way I choose to respond to my day – affects every area of my life. Charles Swindoll says it so much better than I ever could. He notes, “The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than success, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company … a church … a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude…I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you, we are in charge of our attitudes.”
To sum this up: How we view ourselves and others matter. Our habits and our attitudes influence our health. Combined they can be called Habitudes. It is that simple. Julie Smith said it this way, “You can’t make yourself feel positive, but you can choose how to act, and if you choose right, it builds your confidence.” Choose the right Habitudes so your confidence grows. As that grows so does your life!