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Desire to Delight

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At a men’s retreat I attended, we were sitting around discussing next steps; ya know, what we will do with the information we had heard and learned over the past few days. An older gentleman spoke up and said God had shown him 4 D’s. They are desire, decision, discipline, delight. He went on to explain a few things about what he thought they meant. It was very good & insightful. Since then, I am been thinking about how I could share the 4 D’s and make them applicable to not only our spiritual lives but also our delightphysical lives. Below is my attempt to do so.

The 4D’s – how to transition from desire to delight. Everything we do, for the most part, starts with a desire. That desire leads to a decision. If that decision is thought out and planned for, it can lead to discipline. That discipline if done long enough with results seen can lead to delight. And that delight leads to lasting change. But do you see a problem here at all? Do you see where most people never reach? If not, we will get to that.

Let’s take two practical examples and apply this:

(1) Spiritual application: You have the desire to read the Bible. We all have at times. That desire leads to a decision to follow a 1-year bible reading plan. Your decision is well thought out and you plan for time in the day to do it. You become disciplined and you make it through Deuteronomy then that discipline wanes and drifts off. You miss a few days and before long you no longer have the desire. Or maybe you are super-disciplined and make it for 3-6 months but the same things happens. You shrug it off and say, next year I got this. Really?

(2) Physical application: You have the desire to get in shape. You even go as far as making it public on facebook with a new year’s resolution attached to it. Your desire to get in shape in great and it has led to a decision to not only be held accountable by your public profession of it but also you decide to join a gym. Your decision to join the gym is well thought out because you know by paying you are more likely to go and get the job done. This decision leads to a discipline you have never felt before. You get up early and feel great. You are 3 months in and seeing results. You are actually starting to enjoy it. Then you go on a week’s vacation and when you come back you miss a few workouts because of having to catch up at work. A few more workouts are missed and the enjoyment you did feel is now gone and you feel bad about not going because you are still paying a gym membership. You actually question your decision about joining the gym and the desire to get in shape starts to fade. Ever seen that scenario before?

You can apply this same scenario to many things. The result is the same. How do we go from desire to delight? You see, that is the problem. Most people never get to the delight much less have discipline to guide them. How to remedy the problem? I think the key is being realistic in our understanding of the process. For instance, pick any sport, music genre, anything – and I bet the people who are experts had a discipline long before they had a delight. Our desires and our decision must first lead us to a discipline to do things over and over even when the delight is not there. As that discipline becomes second nature (which may take countless hours), all of sudden, out of seemingly nowhere, a delight rises up that sustains – that changes – that motivates. It is the desire and decision that moves us. It is the discipline that changes us. But it is the delight that sustains and shifts us.

Now do you ever think we slip back from delight to discipline? Of course we do. This is a fluid, on-going journey. Maybe we sometimes even need to go back and check our desires to see if they still align with our current trajectory. If not, let’s realign our desires and move toward a decision. And thus the journey continues. Know this, the process of going from desire to delight, no matter how long it takes, is worth working towards.

Questions for you to ponder: What desire do you have? Where does it come from? Is there a decision that needs to be made around it? What type of discipline needs to be applied to make that desire happen? How can that discipline become delightful and sustainable? A verse to consider when thinking about your answers: ‘Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart.” (Ps. 34:7). Maybe we should first consider what we are delighting in to begin with? Hmmmmm?

And one last point of interest: Did you know God delights in you? Well, he does! (Zeph. 3:17)

Refuel…Refocus…Reenergize

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Don’t you want to do more than ‘just survive?’ Of course you do! You are meant to live life to the fullest. You were made to thrive. We all are. Listen to Dr. Bo talk about what it means to refuel, refocus and reenergize.  After you listen, check out THRIVE to learn more.

Stuff the Turkey

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stuffturkeyThis November, will you help us stuff the turkey?! Who is the turkey? Read on to find out…

This turkey is a gift to our office and many people we serve at Trinity. She has a heart to see people loved, restored, and healed. She has a desire to bless others. Her motto is “love big, love well, love lots”. If you have had the pleasure of speaking to her or received one of her hand-written notes, you know who I am referring to.

But, so often, people come into our lives for a season. Trinity has been encouraged, challenged, and changed because of this turkey. However, this season, we must say our goodbyes. She is moving to the Middle East in January to share the love and truth of Jesus Christ.

The area that she is moving to has approximately 68 un-reached people groups but only 20-30 local Christians. After visiting this area, learning about the need, and falling in love with the people, she has decided to live out John 4:34, and Go! We, here at Trinity, will miss her but we know God will continue to use her in wonderful and mighty ways.

Ok, who is this turkey??
Her name…Kayla!

How can you help stuff this turkey? Starting Tuesday, October 31st, and extending through the month of November, we will have a turkey created to hold all of your stuffings!  Oh, this will be fun!!!
On October 31st, Dr. Bo is going to help stuff the turkey by matching any financial gifts up to $250. Plus, on this day there will be two more fun items: (1) the entire Trinity staff will be dressed up for Halloween. Stop by to check us out! and (2) chair massages will be offered throughout the day ($5 suggested donation to help stuff the turkey).

What do you stuff the turkey with? Two items:

(1) Financial gifts: Kayla is soooooo close to reaching her financial goals. Let’s stuff that turkey full so she is fully funded.

(2) Encouraging gifts: a note, a bible verse, a caring thought; encouragement goes a long way.

How can you stuff the turkey? Three ways:

(1) In person: Come to Trinity. We will accept cash, check, and credit cards. This could be the most fun because you can say hello to the turkey while you stuff the turkey.

(2) Mail: Checks made payable to TEAM with Kayla and account number (011854) in the memo line and sent to: PO Box 1986 Grapevine, TX 76099-1986.

(3) Online: Go to TEAM’s website and search the account number (011854). Monthly automatic withdrawal is available to set up if you want to stuff this turkey during the 3 years that she is gone.

Thank you for your help! We look forward to stuffing the turkey (Kayla) with lots of love!

Put your clothes on

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You take the time to pick out the perfect outfit; why would you think to do any less for your spiritual/emotional outfit as well? Listen to Dr. Bo talk about how to clothe yourself so you are ready for your day!

Octoburpee

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Dr. Bo’s challenge…30 burpees/day for the entire month of October = Octoburpee. That will be 930 burpees…Have fun & move more!

B.U.S.Y

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We all say it…’I am too busy.’ Really? Listen to Dr. Bo give encouragement on how to be BUSY (be unafraid – stay yourself) in a way that matters most!

Worth the effort

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Dr. Bo vlogging about the effort it takes to be healthy. It may not be as much as you think & it is worth every effort you put forth for not only yourself but your loved ones.

The 3 T’s

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Check out my first attempt at a video blog (called a vlog, I think?!?). I am speaking on the 3 T’s (thoughts, traumas & toxins) and how they affect our health. Hope you enjoy :)

Facts of Life

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factsoflifeHow do you deal with the ‘facts of life?’ Recently, we had a good friend diagnosed with cancer. The process of hearing the news always causes a mixture of emotions for not only the person diagnosed but also friends and family. Funny how a fact – a diagnosable fact of life- can cause you to have faith or fear.
This above-mentioned friend and his wife stopped by the house the other day on a whim (“they were in the neighborhood”). It is rather great how a surprise visit (no matter the length) can turn into an unexpected blessing. Never not take the time to stop by or call or text a friend just to let them know you care. It is invaluable and worth the effort! So, as we sat there and chatted about his recent diagnosis, his wife said, “During a time of prayer and worship, God gave me a word picture: Facts or faith.” We chatted about this for a moment, laughed and enjoyed one another.
After they left, I thought about her statement: Facts or Faith. The more I thought about it; it hit me that facts are nothing more than that; facts. They provide useful information but what they produce in us is something much more. The facts of life produce faith and/or fear. Let me give you some examples.

1. Fact: Cancer Diagnosis
Faith: God is my healer & deliverer. He is in control. He is trustworthy.
Fear: I have no control. Why did this happen to me? God is not good.
2. Fact: Bank account at $0
Faith: God is my provider and sustainer. I lack nothing.
 Fear: I have nothing. I will never amount to anything. I am not good enough.
3. Fact: A person lied about or mistreated me.
 Faith: God is my defender. My identity is secure and not based on what others think, do or say.
 Fear: What will others think about me? Will others like me? My reputation is ruined.

I do not mean to over-simplify something as significant as a cancer diagnosis, loss of a loved one, money troubles, abuse, etc…These events and many more are significant moments in our lives. However, what I do want to emphasize is that during your life, you may get diagnosed with cancer, lose a loved one, have unexpected money troubles, your name slandered or a host of other things – these facts are just that: pieces of information that contain objective reality. And that information then causes a response to arise in us that lends itself to either faith or fear. Now, I am fully aware, that fear, anger & anxiety may rise up at the initial hearing of the facts but those emotions must be replaced with faith if we are to overcome the ‘facts of life.’

Two songs: (click on link to listen)
1. Overcome
2. Hello to Beautiful

Three verses: (read & meditate)
1. Philip. 4:6-7 – “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds…”
2. Joshua 1:9 – ” Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.”
3. Eph. 2:10 – “For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them”

Be Here Now

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Here-and-nowOn family movie night, we decided to watch ‘A Dog’s Purpose.’ It was a cute movie that revealed much about human interactions with not only each other but also their beloved canines. Without giving away too much, the movie allowed you to venture into one dog’s world over and over again in differing scenarios but the question that kept surfacing was the same; why I am here? What is my purpose? As I sat there and watched, I realized many if not all of us ask the same question in the differing seasons of life we find ourselves: what is my purpose?
Henri Nouwen, in his book, Discernment, writes, “Who am I? This is the core question that every person asks and answers throughout life. Naming ourselves, seeing the shifting roles we play during our lives and seeking to live by the values and beliefs at the heart of our existence are lifelong challenges.” Nouwen continues, “As beloved children, our core identity is secure in the memory of God. Whether we do anything worthwhile, prove anything important or give anything of value, God still loves us unconditionally. It is a strong, vital and active fatherly and motherly kind of love that holds us safe and affirms our worth, wherever we go and whatever we do. Can you or I remember that we are the beloved of God when we fail? When we hurt someone? Even then we are God’s beloved called to remember that beneath our woundedness or frailty is the deeper call to live out of the inexhaustible riches of God’s love.” You see, all of us ask the questions, who am I and what is my purpose? The trick is, what are your answers to those questions? I will not give you your answers b/c asThomas Merton notes, “You cannot tell me who I am and I cannot tell you who you are. If you do not know your own identity, who is going to identify you?” So, how do… you identify you?
Back to the movie…the climatic end is summed up with three powerful words, “Be Here Now.” Throughout the seasons of our lives, and in varying degrees, we will continue to ask, who am I & what is my purpose? But in that, let us not to forget to…be here now. I sent a text to a friend the other day; it read, “Praying that your day is filled with unexpected blessings and intentional moments.” As I reread what I wrote, I thought, is it not in being intentional with our moments that unexpected blessings happen the most; we just have to be looking for them; we just have to…be here now!

Click on one of the resources  below to help…you identify you:
1. Who are you? (a) Identity (b) Two questions (c) God’s eyes

2. What is your purpose? (a) A choice (b) Significance (c) Existence