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What then?

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When we opened Trinity almost 15 years ago, my consistent prayer was a version of this: ‘Lord, let us see 30 patients today.” I would pray that as I entered the office but never really telling anyone. At some point (can’t remember when), I told Jennifer my prayer. She prayed it for a while then one day she asked it: “What then?” I said, “what do you mean, what then?’ She said, “Well, if you see 30, you gonna pray for 40, 50? When does it stop?’ I did not have a great answer what-thenfor her but I know that conversation was just the start of a shift in my prayer life toward Trinity and the patients we serve.
I had forgotten about the above conversation until a patient told me she was giving a talk about goal setting and was going to call it, ‘Then Where…What Now?’ We talked about this for a bit but to sum up her thoughts: We all make goals (which is not a bad idea) however the goal (whatever it is) can become something we so focus on that we miss the present moments of the journey along the way to the goal. For instance, she said, ‘If your goal is to go to Australia on vacation and you actually get to go, can you be satisfied in the moment or is your heart and mind already asking, Then where? Or if you goal is to be able to do 10 pull-ups, once you are able do it, can you enjoy the moment or are you already asking, What now?’ You see, her point and Jennifer’s point is the same: We are so focused on a goal that we miss out on what is going on in the present moments of the journey and can actually miss out on life. But again, let me remind you, goals are not bad – they can actually be healthy and purposeful. As you consider your goals, just take into account the journey of getting to your goal and not just the end-point because what happens if you never are able to get to the end-point…what then?
The ‘what then’ question has not changed my prayer life but it also changed the way I set and desire to meet goas. Do not get me wrong, I am wired to set goals, achieve them, mark them off my list and move on to the next goal. When I ran my 40 miles, the goal was not just to finish the 40 miles but to run the entire time no matter how slow. I achieved my goal but if that was my only goal, I would have missed so much. During the training process, I learned so much about myself and the support of others. But this same process works in other areas beside the physical – goal setting and enjoying the journey works mentally, spiritually, financially as well. We are saving to go to Disney this year. Our end goal is Disney, period! But to get there, we have to save money. So, we have incorporated the kids by making a Disney poster, giving them money making opportunities, etc…Instead of just focusing on the goal, we are trying to focus on thee daily, weekly, monthly journey that will get us to our goal.
How do we set goals and enjoy the journey? I think it involves having a: settled and inspired heart. Can you be settled and inspired at the same time? Yes, I think you can! We must have a settled heart that is content in the moment of life we find ourselves no matter what stage of the journey but our heart must also be inspired to go after the goal set before us. To be only settled, we may never achieve our goals. To be only inspired, we may never be content no matter what we achieve. To be settled and to be inspired is nothing short of living a full adventurous life. Two verses I think about: (1) Philippians 4:11-13, “… I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content…In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me.” (2) John 10:10, “…I have come to give life and life to the fullest.”
What then? Settle your heart in all circumstances. Be inspired to go after the full life. Do that and Then where? & What now? will be much easier to answer. Oh and do not forget, YOU CAN do all things!

Avoid S-S-S-S

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I have had something on my mind for a few weeks and not knowing how to really articulate it. It is this: Avoid the 4 S’s. Let me try to explain. The thought came to me while I was chatting with a patient about her new year’s resolution. Like most people, she wanted to exercise more and eat less but the more she chatted about it I noticed something; stress. She really did not want to do anything but she felt like (ok, maybe knew) she needed to do something. I just listened for a bit and then said, ‘Ya know, the stress of this decision may be worse than you actually doing anything.” I encouraged her to come up with a goal that was healthy but attainable, challenging but not overly stressful, and to ask a friend to keep her accountable.

avoid4sThe more I thought about the above conversation, this kept coming to my mind. The 2 S’s to reduce or avoid: stress and sugar. But as I kept mulling it over, 2 more S’s came to mind: social media and self-talk (negative). So with that, I think there are 4 S’s we should reduce and avoid to be healthy. I will list each ‘S’ below with a brief description.

1. Stress: We all have stress and we all encounter stressors every day; from the food we eat to the TV we watch to the drive home; stress is ever present. So the question is: How do we deal with it? Hans Selye, MD, known as the Father of Stress, wrote, “It’s not stress that kills us; it is our reaction to it.” Did you catch that? It is not the stress that kills; it is our reaction to it. It is our choice to what extent the stressor affects us. Chronic stress 100% affects our health in ways that are unique to each individual. We must reduce stress to be healthy.  Read a CNBC report about stress in the workplace and how it affects, well – everything and everyone!

2. Sugar: No matter what diet plan you choose to follow – Atkins, Ketogenic, Paleo, Mediterranean, Whole Food 30 – the first step is to reduce or avoid sugar. Why? Because sugar can cause harmful damage to our cells. Left unchecked, it can cause weight issues and organ damage.  Instead of re-writing about the harmful effects of sugar, read these two articles: Wellness Mama & Healthline.

3. Social Media: Do I think social media is the devil? No. Can it be useful? Yes, especially for businesses.  Do people spend too much time on it? Yes. Perform a little test on yourself. Give up social media for 1 day. Do not look at your instagram, snapchat, facebook, twitter, etc… and see how you feel. Was it as easy? Did you feel like you did not know what to do with your time? At best, social media keeps us connected in ways that were not possible even a few years ago. At worst, social media is a comparison driven platform that promises connection but leaves people feeling isolated. Question is: how are you using it and why? Read how social media affects society and our psychology.

4. Self-talk (negative): Look in the mirror. Yes, stop and look in the mirror. What are the words that come to mind when you look at the person staring back at you? How do you see yourself matters b/c it affects not only you but every other person you encounter. Circumstances and events – good, bad, indifferent, horrible – affect you, yes but do not have to define you!  Something else to consider is this: who do you surround yourself with – life-giving people or woe-is-me people. It matters as Jim Rohn notes, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Something to think about huh? Read how negative self-talk  affects your neurophysiology.

How do we avoid the 4 S’s? First, we must recognize the influence of each of them in our lives. Second, we must make practical steps (simple and sometimes radical) to avoid or reduce them. Third, we must realize health is a journey that will require effort. We will experience days of great success and other days we will have setbacks but we must press on for ourselves and our families.

And lastly, if I gave you 4 S’s to avoid, let me give you 3 R’s that will help you THRIVE: refuel…refocus…reenergize.

Desire to Delight

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At a men’s retreat I attended, we were sitting around discussing next steps; ya know, what we will do with the information we had heard and learned over the past few days. An older gentleman spoke up and said God had shown him 4 D’s. They are desire, decision, discipline, delight. He went on to explain a few things about what he thought they meant. It was very good & insightful. Since then, I am been thinking about how I could share the 4 D’s and make them applicable to not only our spiritual lives but also our delightphysical lives. Below is my attempt to do so.

The 4D’s – how to transition from desire to delight. Everything we do, for the most part, starts with a desire. That desire leads to a decision. If that decision is thought out and planned for, it can lead to discipline. That discipline if done long enough with results seen can lead to delight. And that delight leads to lasting change. But do you see a problem here at all? Do you see where most people never reach? If not, we will get to that.

Let’s take two practical examples and apply this:

(1) Spiritual application: You have the desire to read the Bible. We all have at times. That desire leads to a decision to follow a 1-year bible reading plan. Your decision is well thought out and you plan for time in the day to do it. You become disciplined and you make it through Deuteronomy then that discipline wanes and drifts off. You miss a few days and before long you no longer have the desire. Or maybe you are super-disciplined and make it for 3-6 months but the same things happens. You shrug it off and say, next year I got this. Really?

(2) Physical application: You have the desire to get in shape. You even go as far as making it public on facebook with a new year’s resolution attached to it. Your desire to get in shape in great and it has led to a decision to not only be held accountable by your public profession of it but also you decide to join a gym. Your decision to join the gym is well thought out because you know by paying you are more likely to go and get the job done. This decision leads to a discipline you have never felt before. You get up early and feel great. You are 3 months in and seeing results. You are actually starting to enjoy it. Then you go on a week’s vacation and when you come back you miss a few workouts because of having to catch up at work. A few more workouts are missed and the enjoyment you did feel is now gone and you feel bad about not going because you are still paying a gym membership. You actually question your decision about joining the gym and the desire to get in shape starts to fade. Ever seen that scenario before?

You can apply this same scenario to many things. The result is the same. How do we go from desire to delight? You see, that is the problem. Most people never get to the delight much less have discipline to guide them. How to remedy the problem? I think the key is being realistic in our understanding of the process. For instance, pick any sport, music genre, anything – and I bet the people who are experts had a discipline long before they had a delight. Our desires and our decision must first lead us to a discipline to do things over and over even when the delight is not there. As that discipline becomes second nature (which may take countless hours), all of sudden, out of seemingly nowhere, a delight rises up that sustains – that changes – that motivates. It is the desire and decision that moves us. It is the discipline that changes us. But it is the delight that sustains and shifts us.

Now do you ever think we slip back from delight to discipline? Of course we do. This is a fluid, on-going journey. Maybe we sometimes even need to go back and check our desires to see if they still align with our current trajectory. If not, let’s realign our desires and move toward a decision. And thus the journey continues. Know this, the process of going from desire to delight, no matter how long it takes, is worth working towards.

Questions for you to ponder: What desire do you have? Where does it come from? Is there a decision that needs to be made around it? What type of discipline needs to be applied to make that desire happen? How can that discipline become delightful and sustainable? A verse to consider when thinking about your answers: ‘Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart.” (Ps. 34:7). Maybe we should first consider what we are delighting in to begin with? Hmmmmm?

And one last point of interest: Did you know God delights in you? Well, he does! (Zeph. 3:17)


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Don’t you want to do more than ‘just survive?’ Of course you do! You are meant to live life to the fullest. You were made to thrive. We all are. Listen to Dr. Bo talk about what it means to refuel, refocus and reenergize.  After you listen, check out THRIVE to learn more.

Stuff the Turkey

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stuffturkeyThis November, will you help us stuff the turkey?! Who is the turkey? Read on to find out…

This turkey is a gift to our office and many people we serve at Trinity. She has a heart to see people loved, restored, and healed. She has a desire to bless others. Her motto is “love big, love well, love lots”. If you have had the pleasure of speaking to her or received one of her hand-written notes, you know who I am referring to.

But, so often, people come into our lives for a season. Trinity has been encouraged, challenged, and changed because of this turkey. However, this season, we must say our goodbyes. She is moving to the Middle East in January to share the love and truth of Jesus Christ.

The area that she is moving to has approximately 68 un-reached people groups but only 20-30 local Christians. After visiting this area, learning about the need, and falling in love with the people, she has decided to live out John 4:34, and Go! We, here at Trinity, will miss her but we know God will continue to use her in wonderful and mighty ways.

Ok, who is this turkey??
Her name…Kayla!

How can you help stuff this turkey? Starting Tuesday, October 31st, and extending through the month of November, we will have a turkey created to hold all of your stuffings!  Oh, this will be fun!!!
On October 31st, Dr. Bo is going to help stuff the turkey by matching any financial gifts up to $250. Plus, on this day there will be two more fun items: (1) the entire Trinity staff will be dressed up for Halloween. Stop by to check us out! and (2) chair massages will be offered throughout the day ($5 suggested donation to help stuff the turkey).

What do you stuff the turkey with? Two items:

(1) Financial gifts: Kayla is soooooo close to reaching her financial goals. Let’s stuff that turkey full so she is fully funded.

(2) Encouraging gifts: a note, a bible verse, a caring thought; encouragement goes a long way.

How can you stuff the turkey? Three ways:

(1) In person: Come to Trinity. We will accept cash, check, and credit cards. This could be the most fun because you can say hello to the turkey while you stuff the turkey.

(2) Mail: Checks made payable to TEAM with Kayla and account number (011854) in the memo line and sent to: PO Box 1986 Grapevine, TX 76099-1986.

(3) Online: Go to TEAM’s website and search the account number (011854). Monthly automatic withdrawal is available to set up if you want to stuff this turkey during the 3 years that she is gone.

Thank you for your help! We look forward to stuffing the turkey (Kayla) with lots of love!

Put your clothes on

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You take the time to pick out the perfect outfit; why would you think to do any less for your spiritual/emotional outfit as well? Listen to Dr. Bo talk about how to clothe yourself so you are ready for your day!


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Dr. Bo’s challenge…30 burpees/day for the entire month of October = Octoburpee. That will be 930 burpees…Have fun & move more!


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We all say it…’I am too busy.’ Really? Listen to Dr. Bo give encouragement on how to be BUSY (be unafraid – stay yourself) in a way that matters most!

Worth the effort

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Dr. Bo vlogging about the effort it takes to be healthy. It may not be as much as you think & it is worth every effort you put forth for not only yourself but your loved ones.

The 3 T’s

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Check out my first attempt at a video blog (called a vlog, I think?!?). I am speaking on the 3 T’s (thoughts, traumas & toxins) and how they affect our health. Hope you enjoy :)